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In this category, we explore the ancient practice of Neti Neti, a foundational method in Advaita Vedanta for guiding the mind toward the realization of one’s true nature. Neti Neti, which translates to “not this, not this,” is a process of negation that helps practitioners strip away layers of identification with thoughts, emotions, and physical sensations, revealing the pristine mind that lies beyond all mental events.

Through a series of contemplative letters, reflections, and practical guidance, this category offers insights into how Neti Neti can be integrated into daily meditation and spiritual practice. Whether you are new to this approach or deepening an established practice, these writings serve as a gentle guide, helping you navigate the journey from the ordinary mind, with its many distractions, to the meditative mind, where stillness and clarity reign.

Join us as we delve into the profound simplicity of Neti Neti, discovering the peace and freedom that come from realizing the essence of who you truly are.

  • Neti Neti Series No. 3: Seeking to Understand the True Nature of the Self

    Question:

    As I continue with the mantra “Not This, Not This,” a new layer of understanding has begun to unfold. I realize that even what I have thought of as Witness Consciousness is not the ultimate truth. The Witness, as I experience it, seems to be the cultivation of equanimity—a state of being not distracted or disturbed by whatever arises.

    But even this Witness, this sense of “I” that observes with equanimity, is still not the Atman, is it? It is a step in the right direction, a refinement of awareness, but it is still an identification, a subtle form of ego that remains.

    It occurs to me that the mantra “Not This, Not This” could continue indefinitely, as long as there is an “I” who is meditating, an “I” who witnesses. For even this witnessing, even this equanimity, is not the ultimate reality. The mantra, I think, would stop on its own when the meditator dissolves into the natural state of non-dual awareness. And then, as soon as the sense of “I” returns—as in the awareness of being a meditator—the mantra would begin again naturally.

    Is this understanding correct? How should I continue with my practice, knowing that even the Witness is “Not This”?

    Dear friend,

    Your reflections are filled with a deep and subtle wisdom, and it is clear that your practice is guiding you ever closer to the heart of truth. You are right to recognize that even the Witness Consciousness, the state of equanimity where one observes without being disturbed, is not the ultimate realization. It is a significant step, yes—a refinement of the mind that allows for greater clarity and peace—but it is still within the realm of duality.

    The Witness, as you experience it, is still a form of identification. It is the “I” that watches, the “I” that remains calm in the face of arising thoughts and sensations. But as long as there is an “I” who observes, there is still a subtle separation between the observer and the observed, between the subject and the object. This is why your mantra, “Not This, Not This,” continues even here.

    Indeed, the mantra serves to negate everything that arises, even the most refined states of awareness. It is a tool that guides you to see that the true self, Atman, is beyond all states, beyond all experiences—even beyond the experience of witnessing.

    You are correct in thinking that the mantra would naturally stop on its own when the sense of “I” dissolves into the natural state. In this state, there is no longer a subject who perceives and an object that is perceived—there is only pure being, pure awareness, which is Atman. This state is non-dual; it is beyond the distinctions of self and other, beyond the need for a mantra, beyond the need for any practice at all.

    But until this dissolution occurs, until the “I” fully merges with the infinite, the mantra serves as your faithful guide. It may continue in the background, a gentle whisper that affirms “Not This, Not This,” as you move closer to the realization of your true nature. And yes, as you so insightfully noted, the mantra may begin again whenever the sense of “I” returns, whenever duality reappears.

    This is the natural ebb and flow of practice, dear traveler. The mantra is not something you force to stop; it stops when there is no longer an “I” to sustain it. And when the “I” re-emerges, the mantra resumes, continuing its sacred work of leading you back to the stillness, the silence, the undivided whole that is your true self.

    Continue with this understanding, with patience and trust in the process. The path of “Not This, Not This” is one of deepening subtlety, where even the most refined states are ultimately seen as steps along the way to the infinite. Your journey is leading you ever closer to the realization of Atman, where the distinctions of self and other dissolve into the pure, unchanging awareness that is your true essence.

    May your practice bring you peace and clarity, and may you continue to walk this path with grace and humility.

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  • Neti Neti Series No. 2: The Mantra That Dissolves into Silence

    Question:

    As I sit in meditation, repeating the mantra “Neti Neti,” I understand that this sacred phrase helps to strip away all that I am not. Thoughts arise, and I negate them. Emotions surface, and I let them go. Even the awareness of being a witness or the experience of stillness—these too, I recognize as not the ultimate reality.

    Yet, a subtle dilemma has emerged. I wonder, what happens when the very idea of “I” who is meditating dissolves? Is it not true that as long as there is an “I” who continues the practice, the mantra “Neti Neti” must also continue? And if this is the case, does the mantra cease only when the “I” itself disappears into the natural state of pure being? In such a moment, is it the case that the mantra stops on its own, not by my choosing, but because there is no longer an “I” to hold it?

    And then, when the sense of “I” returns, does the mantra begin again naturally, as the duality of subject and object re-emerges? I seek your wisdom on this matter, for I wish to understand the true nature of this practice and its ultimate purpose.

    Dear friend,

    Your question, born from a place of sincere inquiry, touches upon the very heart of the “Neti Neti” practice. I commend you for your diligence and the subtlety of your understanding, which reveals a mind that is both reflective and deeply engaged in the journey inward.

    Yes, you have grasped a key truth: the mantra “Neti Neti” is indeed a tool for continuous negation. It is a practice of peeling away the layers of illusion, gently, one by one, until nothing remains but the pure, unadorned awareness that is your true nature.

    As long as there is an “I” who perceives itself as meditating, this “I” exists within the realm of duality—where there is a subject (the meditator) and an object (the practice, the mantra, the thoughts). In this dualistic state, the mantra serves its purpose, guiding the mind to recognize that each arising thought, each sensation, each experience of stillness or witnessing, is not the ultimate reality. “Not this, not this,” the mantra whispers, reminding you that you are not these transient phenomena.

    But what happens when the sense of “I” begins to dissolve? When the boundary between perceiver and perceived starts to blur and fade? Herein lies a profound mystery: as the “I” that meditates melts into the ocean of pure being, the mantra, too, falls silent. For in the state of non-duality, where all distinctions have vanished, there is no need for the mantra—no “I” to repeat it, no “other” to negate. What remains is the natural state, the effortless being that is beyond all concepts, all forms, all practices.

    In this state, you do not stop the mantra; rather, the mantra ceases on its own, like a river merging with the sea, no longer distinguishable as a separate entity. This silence is not a void but a fullness, an infinite expanse of awareness where the true self—Atman—is realized, free from the confines of duality.

    And yet, the journey doesn’t end there. If and when the sense of ‘I’ re-emerges, as it often does, the mantra returns naturally. This is not a step backward but a return to the dualistic state where the mind resumes its habitual patterns. The mantra then resumes its sacred task of guiding you back toward the still, silent center where the distinctions between self and other can once again dissolve.

    So, dear friend, your understanding is indeed correct. The mantra “Neti Neti” is not something to be stopped by an act of will, but rather it fades away of its own accord when there is no longer an “I” to sustain it. And when the “I” returns, the mantra too returns, ready to lead you back into the depths of stillness and silence.

    Trust in this process, and allow the practice to unfold naturally, without forcing or grasping. The journey of “Neti Neti” is one of gentle negation, patient observation, and deep surrender. In time, you will come to rest more and more in the natural state, where the mantra is no longer needed, and the self is known in its true, infinite nature.

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  • Introducing the Neti Neti Practice Series: A Journey of Self-Inquiry

    Welcome to the Practices of Neti Neti series, an exploration into one of the most profound methods of self-inquiry within the Advaita Vedanta tradition. This series is dedicated to the practice of Neti Neti—a Sanskrit phrase meaning “not this, not this”—which serves as a guide for stripping away all that is not the true Self, leading to the recognition of our pristine, unchanging nature.

    What is Neti Neti?

    Neti Neti is a process of negation that helps practitioners identify and discard false identifications with thoughts, emotions, and sensations. It is a method of peeling back the layers of the ego to reveal the stillness and silence of the pristine mind—the pure consciousness that is unaffected by the fluctuations of the mind. This practice is at the heart of Advaita Vedanta and is used to guide the seeker toward the realization of the Self, or Atman, which is ultimately one with Brahman, the universal consciousness.

    About This Series

    In this series, you will find a collection of questions and answers that delve deeply into the practice of Neti Neti. Each question is a reflection of the natural inquiries that arise during meditation and self-inquiry. The answers are written in a contemplative and encouraging style, as letters from a friend —offering wisdom, clarity, and support as you navigate your own journey of self-discovery.

    Why Questions and Answers?

    The format of questions followed by reflective answers is inspired by the teaching styles of great spiritual masters like Ramana Maharshi and Papaji. This approach allows for a dynamic exploration of the practice, addressing the doubts and insights that naturally emerge as one progresses on the path. By engaging with these questions, you’ll find that the answers are not merely intellectual responses, but invitations to deeper inquiry and realization.

    How to Use This Series

    This series is designed to be read sequentially, as the posts build upon each other, following the natural flow of practice and understanding. However, you are also welcome to explore the posts in any order, depending on where you are in your own practice.

    Each post presents a question that might arise during your meditation or reflection, followed by a letter that offers guidance on how to address it. These letters are not just answers—they are invitations to deepen your practice, to explore the subtleties of Neti Neti, and to connect with the stillness that lies beyond all mental events.

    Beginning the Journey

    As you embark on this journey through the Neti Neti practice, remember that this path is not about attaining something new, but about recognizing what has always been present. The goal is to gently guide the mind away from its distractions, allowing the pristine mind—your true nature—to shine through.

    Whether you are new to Neti Neti or looking to deepen your understanding, I invite you to explore these letters with an open heart and a quiet mind. May they serve as a steady guide on your path to self-realization.

    Engage and Explore Together

    I warmly encourage you to leave any questions or reflections in the comments section of each post. If a question resonates deeply or sparks a new line of inquiry, I may create additional blog posts to explore these topics further. Your engagement helps to create a community of shared learning, where we can all benefit from each other’s insights and experiences.

    Let us begin this journey together, one question and one insight at a time, as we uncover the truth of who we truly are.

    For those who wish to explore further the concept of pristine mind and its practices, I highly recommend Orgyen Chowang Rinpoche’s book, Pristine Mind: A Journey into Self-Awareness. Although this book does not specifically address the Neti Neti practice, it offers profound insights into the nature of pristine mind, a state of pure awareness that lies beyond the mental events and distractions that often cloud our perception. Rinpoche’s teachings provide a clear and accessible guide to realizing and resting in this natural state, which closely aligns with the ultimate goal of Neti Neti. You can explore the Kindle version of this book below, which may serve as a valuable companion on your journey of self-inquiry and spiritual awakening.

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  • Poem: Look to the Moon

    The finger points to where the moon does shine,
    But gaze not at the hand that beckons you.
    Let go the grasp of thoughts that claim as mine,
    And turn your sight to what is pure and true.

    Ramana speaks of Self, the quiet core,
    Where all the world and mind do gently fade.
    Orgyen’s Pristine Mind, and Buddha’s lore,
    Reveal the light that nothing can degrade.

    In God’s vast silence, there you’ll find the key,
    A truth that words and thoughts cannot contain.
    Release the need to seek, just let it be,
    For in the stillness, all is clear and plain.

    Stop searching for the truth outside, afar,
    The moon is shining, constant in the night.
    Turn inward now and see just where you are,
    The light you seek is your own inner light.

    Midnight.
    No waves,
    No wind,
    The empty boat
    Is flooded with moonlight.


    — Zen Master Dogen

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  • Neti Neti Series No. 1: Embracing the Practice of “Not This, Not This

    Question:

    How should I approach the practice of “Neti Neti” and what can I expect as I continue with it?


    Dear friend,

    “Neti Neti” is a path that is both ancient and profound, one that requires patience, a quiet heart, and a gentle perseverance. I’d like to share with you some thoughts and reflections that may guide you as you journey further into this sacred practice.

    The phrase “Neti Neti” translates simply as “not this, not this.” It is a mantra, yes, but it is also much more than that—it is a doorway to the understanding what lies beyond the confines of our ordinary thoughts and perceptions. When we repeat “Neti Neti,” we are not merely uttering words; we are engaging in a process of negation that strips away the layers of illusion and false identification, leading us closer to the core of our being.

    You may find that as you begin your practice, thoughts arise incessantly, like waves upon the shore. This is natural, my friend, and there is no need for concern. The mind, after all, is accustomed to constant movement. But as you sit in stillness and repeat “Neti Neti,” you are training your awareness to recognize that these thoughts—however persistent they may seem—are not who you are.

    In those moments when the mind is quiet, even for a brief instant, you may feel a sense of peace, a spaciousness that is untouched by the comings and goings of thoughts and emotions. This is the silence in which your true self resides. When you touch this silence, allow yourself to rest in it. Do not seek to hold on to it too tightly, for it is like a delicate breeze—best experienced by simply being present with it.

    And yet, if thoughts begin to stir again—and they often will—there is no need to worry or to chastise yourself. Simply return to the mantra, “Neti Neti,” with the understanding that what you are negating is not just the thought itself, but the identification with it. Each time you say “not this,” you are affirming that your true self is not these fleeting mental activities but something much deeper and more enduring.

    As you continue with this practice, you may begin to notice subtle changes in your inner landscape. The mind, once so restless, may start to settle more easily. You may find that the gaps between thoughts grow wider, and the stillness within you becomes more familiar, like a dear friend who visits often. This is the beginning of a profound transformation.

    In time, my friend, you may come to a place where the need to repeat the mantra diminishes, where silence and stillness are your natural state, and where the mind rests in its true home, free from the distractions that once held it captive. This is not a state to be forced or grasped at—it will come in its own time, as you continue to practice with patience and love.

    Remember, the journey of “Neti Neti” is not about eradicating thoughts or achieving some distant goal. It is about returning, again and again, to the awareness that lies beyond all concepts and forms. It is about recognizing that you are not the thoughts that arise, nor the emotions that ebb and flow. You are the awareness in which all these things occur, and this awareness is vast, infinite, and untouched by the passing of time.

    So, dear friend, as you continue with your practice, I encourage you to approach it with gentleness and an open heart. Trust in the process, even when it feels challenging. Trust in the silence that you find within, and know that this silence is the truest reflection of who you are.

    I look forward to hearing about your experiences as you deepen in this practice. May it bring you the peace and understanding that your soul seeks.

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  • Who is Ramana Maharshi?

    Discovering the Self: Ramana Maharshi’s Guide to Self-Inquiry and True Realization

    Ramana Maharshi is one of the most revered spiritual teachers of the 20th century, known for his profound teachings on self-realization and non-duality. Born in 1879 in Tamil Nadu, India, he experienced a spontaneous awakening at the age of 16, during which he became acutely aware of the impermanence of the body and the eternal nature of the Self. Following this experience, he left his home and spent the rest of his life on the sacred mountain of Arunachala, where he became a guiding light for spiritual seekers from around the world.

    Ramana’s teachings are centered around the practice of Atma Vichara, or self-inquiry, which he considered the most direct path to realizing one’s true nature. Unlike other spiritual practices that involve rituals or external observances, Ramana emphasized turning inward to investigate the true nature of the ‘I’—the sense of individual self that we all experience.

    The Essence of Self-Inquiry

    Ramana Maharshi’s core teaching can be encapsulated in the question, “Who am I?” He taught that the sense of ‘I’ or ego, which we often associate with our thoughts, emotions, and bodily identity, is merely a superficial layer that veils our true Self, which is pure consciousness or awareness.

    The process of self-inquiry involves directing your attention inward, asking yourself where this sense of ‘I’ originates. Ramana explained that by persistently asking this question and observing the ‘I’ thought, one can trace it back to its source. This source is the true Self, the unchanging awareness that underlies all experience.

    If One Watches Whence the ‘I’ Arises

    In one of his teachings, Ramana Maharshi stated, “If one watches whence the notion ‘I’ arises, the mind is absorbed into That.” This teaching points to a subtle yet profound practice. The ‘I’ thought is the root of all mental activity and the sense of individuality. By turning attention to this root, rather than being entangled in the branches of thoughts and feelings, the mind can naturally dissolve into its source—pure awareness, which Ramana refers to as “That.”

    How to Practice Self-Inquiry

    If you find yourself puzzled by this teaching or struggle to sense “That” from which the ‘I’ arises, know that this is a common experience on the path of self-inquiry. The mind, accustomed to focusing outward, finds it challenging to turn inward and settle into stillness.

    Here’s how you can approach this practice:

    1. Sit Quietly: Begin by sitting quietly, with your eyes closed if that feels comfortable. Take a few deep breaths and allow your body and mind to relax.
    2. Turn Inward: Gently bring your attention to the sense of ‘I’. This ‘I’ could be a thought, a feeling, or simply the awareness that you exist.
    3. Ask the Question: Silently ask yourself, “Who am I?” or “Where does this ‘I’ arise from?” Don’t seek an intellectual answer. Instead, let the question be a pointer that guides your awareness inward.
    4. Observe: As you focus on the ‘I’, observe its nature. Does it have a shape, a location? Can you find its origin? Be curious, but not analytical.
    5. Rest in the Awareness: As you continue this enquiry, allow the mind to settle. If thoughts arise, simply notice them and gently bring your attention back to the feeling of ‘I’. Over time, the mind may begin to merge with the deeper awareness that is always present.

    Realizing the Self

    Through persistent practice, you may come to realize that the ‘I’ you have always identified with is not your true Self. The ‘I’ arises and dissolves in the vast expanse of pure awareness—‘That’ which Ramana Maharshi points to. This realization is not something to grasp intellectually, but a direct experience that brings about a profound inner peace and freedom.

    Ramana Maharshi’s teachings are a beacon for those seeking to transcend the ego and discover their true nature. The path of self-inquiry, though simple in its approach, can lead to the ultimate realization of the Self—the awareness that is ever-present, unchanging, and beyond all notions of individuality.

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