Finding the right doctor, who accepts insurance, when you have Chronic Fatigue Syndrome (ME/CFS) can be a daunting task. Many of us have had experiences with doctors who are dismissive, disrespectful, and ignorant about our condition. Over the years, I’ve had to fire several doctors who didn’t meet my needs, and I know I’m not alone in this struggle.
My Experience with Kaiser
I was with Kaiser for seven years, and the doctors I encountered were all horrible, disrespectful, and ignorant about ME/CFS. It was a challenging and frustrating time, but it taught me a valuable lesson: we have the right to fire doctors who don’t understand or respect our condition. I ended up moving to Florida, and I thank God there was no Kaiser in Florida. My search for a helpful primary care physician on straight Medicare and outside of Kaiser began.
Finding a Good Doctor
After a few years on straight Medicare, I am now with Humana Gold, a Medicare Advantage plan, and I’m staying with them because I finally found a very kind, compassionate, understanding, and knowledgeable osteopathic doctor in a group practice with other osteopathic doctors. He is amazing and knows more about ME/CFS than any doctor I’ve ever met. He is neither intimidated nor intimidating and provides very useful guidance, feedback, and advice, keeping me on track with all the different self-therapies (Pacing, breaking down tasks into smaller more manageable steps, Meditation, Heart Rate Variability, gentle stretches, Self-Compassion, Self-Care, setting boundaries , etc. )and a few low dosage symptom managing medications beneficial to those of us living with ME/CFS. He has admitted to learning a lot from me, I from him, and so we feel like a team, modifying, adapting, and figuring things out along the way. Occasionally, he performs osteopathic and cranio-sacral manipulation.
What to Look for in a Doctor
It’s incredibly frustrating when doctors dismiss your symptoms or refuse to learn about ME/CFS. For instance, a GI doctor suggesting another colonoscopy, despite already having consistent findings, while shutting down discussions about ME/CFS, exemplifies the kind of dismissive, disrespectful and disheartening behavior many of us face. This highlights the importance of finding the right doctor, even if it means firing several along the way. At a bare minimum, they should be:
- Humble
- Empathetic
- Good listeners
- Kind
- Understanding
- Compassionate
Before Dr. Otto, the other best doctor I had was also an osteopath. Unfortunately for me, he left private practice to go teach in a hospital. In any case, not all osteopathic doctors are good; many are going the way of ignorance and money now too. If I ever need a new doctor, God forbid, I would only look at osteopathic doctors.
Consider Integrative Medicine
If I had the financial means and wasn’t limited to insurance, I would probably focus on finding an integrative medicine doctor. Integrative medicine doctors often take a holistic approach, combining conventional and alternative therapies to treat the whole person, not just the symptoms.
Specialist Options
It’s disheartening to find that there are very few ME/CFS specialists in the U.S. who accept insurance, but there are doctors out there who are willing to learn and help. It’s essential to find someone who acknowledges ME/CFS and treats you with the respect and care you deserve.
In Conclusion
Finding a good doctor for ME/CFS can be challenging, but they are out there. It may take time and perseverance, but it’s essential to find a healthcare provider who understands your condition and treats you with the respect and care you deserve. I thank God that there are still some good osteopathic doctors in the world, and that they accept Medicare.
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