The Beloved is the quiet presence within me. I do not need to search or speak—for in stillness, I am already near. The light of Divine Love does not come through striving, but through surrender to Allah’s mercy.
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Let’s just sit.
No commentary.
No effort.
Just being.
And let the Truth
reveal itself
like a smile
that was always there.
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Question:
My mind often feels restless and insatiable, constantly creating desires and distractions. I’ve heard the story of the genie climbing the pole to stay busy as a metaphor for controlling the mind. How can I apply this wisdom to my own practice, especially through the use of ‘Neti Neti,’ to keep my mind focused and find peace amidst its relentless demands?
Dear Friend,
There are stories that come to us from distant times and places, stories that hold within them a wisdom that speaks to the very heart of our human experience. One such story, from the Sufi tradition, tells of a man who encountered a powerful genie—a being capable of granting any wish, yet bound by a condition. The genie, restless and insistent, demanded that he be given tasks to perform, lest his untamed energy turn destructive. At first, the man found this simple enough, asking for wealth, health, and all manner of earthly pleasures. But soon, the genie’s demands for more tasks grew relentless, and the man, overwhelmed and desperate, turned to a wise sage for help.
The sage, understanding the nature of the genie, offered a solution both simple and profound: “Tell the genie to climb up and down a pole, and to keep climbing until you have another task for him.” And so, the man did as he was advised, and the genie, with no other choice, began his endless task of climbing the pole. The man lived in peace, free from the threat of the genie’s unrest.
In this tale, the genie represents the mind—our own restless, insatiable mind, always seeking, always wanting, always creating desires and distractions. When left unchecked, the mind can become our greatest enemy, leading us into worry, confusion, and suffering. It spins endlessly, caught up in its own creations, driving us to exhaustion with its demands for more.
But the sage’s solution is a metaphor for the power of disciplined practice. The pole that the genie climbs is akin to the focus we give our mind through spiritual practices, such as mantra repetition. Just as the pole gives the genie a task, the mantra gives the mind something to hold onto, something to engage with, preventing it from causing harm through its restless wanderings.
You have wisely chosen Neti, Neti—”Not this, not this”—as the task for your mind. This mantra, with its gentle negation, guides the mind away from distraction, away from attachment, away from the endless pursuit of desires. It directs the mind back to the simplicity of being, to the quiet truth that lies beyond all names and forms.
In this practice, the mind, like the genie, is given a task that is both meaningful and liberating. It is kept busy, yes, but in a way that leads to peace rather than exhaustion. The mind climbs the pole of Neti, Neti, moving up and down with each repetition, each negation, until it eventually tires of its own restlessness and begins to quiet, to settle, to rest in the stillness that is always present beneath the surface.
This story reminds us that discipline, when applied with wisdom, is not a form of restriction but a path to freedom. By giving the mind a task, by guiding it through the repetition of a mantra, we are not suppressing its nature but rather channeling it in a way that allows it to serve us, rather than enslave us. The mind, once a source of turmoil, becomes an ally on the path, helping us to stay focused, to stay present, and to return again and again to the truth of who we are.
Dear friend, as you continue with the practice of Neti, Neti, remember the story of the genie and the pole. Let it serve as a reminder that the mind, when disciplined, can be a powerful tool for transformation. Each repetition of the mantra is like a step on the pole, guiding the mind upward, guiding it toward the light of awareness. And as you give the mind this task, may you find, as the man in the story did, a sense of peace, a sense of liberation, and a deeper connection to the truth that lies beyond all distractions.
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Introduction:
The Forty Rules of Love by Elif Shafak is a remarkable novel that intertwines two parallel stories: the modern-day journey of Ella Rubenstein, who is undergoing a personal transformation through her engagement with a novel about Rumi and his spiritual teacher, Shams Tabrizi, and the historical relationship between Rumi and Shams in 13th-century Anatolia. Through these interconnected narratives, the novel explores themes of divine love, spirituality, and personal awakening.
Background:
At the heart of this novel is the transformative relationship between Shams Tabrizi and Jalal ad-Din Rumi. Shams, a wandering mystic known for his unconventional methods and profound wisdom, radically altered the course of Rumi’s life. Their bond became the source of Rumi’s spiritual awakening, leading him to write some of the most celebrated poetry in history.
Shams’ teachings were rooted in Sufi traditions, emphasizing the dissolution of the ego, the centrality of love in spiritual practice, and the path toward divine union. His Diwan-i Shams-i Tabrīzī, a collection of poems attributed to him, captures his deep understanding of divine love. Shams’ presence in Rumi’s life was both disruptive and enlightening, awakening the poet to a higher consciousness, which Rumi expressed through his prolific works, including the Masnavi.
The Forty Rules of Love:
Elif Shafak’s novel is structured around the forty rules of love, which are teachings attributed to Shams. These rules serve as guideposts for navigating the human experience of love, both worldly and divine, and reflect key principles of Sufi mysticism. Shafak weaves these rules throughout the story, offering readers spiritual insights while engaging them in the personal struggles of her characters.
Themes Explored:
At the heart of The Forty Rules of Love lies a profound exploration of divine love, the kind of love that transcends the ordinary boundaries of human emotion. Through the lives of Rumi, Shams, and Ella, the novel delves deeply into the nature of love as both a mystical force and a transformative power. Shams’ teachings guide Rumi from a scholar and theologian into a poet of divine union, revealing love as a path that dissolves the ego and leads to spiritual awakening. This kind of love is not just a feeling but an illumination that binds the soul to the divine, guiding the seeker toward self-realization.
Rumi’s own awakening, catalyzed by his connection with Shams, reflects this dissolution of the ego. In Shams’ eyes, the ego is the greatest barrier to true enlightenment. The novel, much like Rumi’s poetry, calls us to surrender the smaller self, to let go of the illusions we hold about our identity, and to step into a deeper experience of being—one in which we recognize that separation from the divine is the root of all suffering.
Ella’s journey parallels Rumi’s in a modern context, as she begins to shed the constraints of her ordinary life, driven by a newfound understanding of love and spiritual depth. Her connection with the novel within the novel becomes a mirror to the relationship between Rumi and Shams, and she, too, is drawn into a process of inner transformation. The book masterfully illustrates how these timeless spiritual principles can apply to anyone, in any age, as they awaken to the deeper truths that exist beyond the confines of everyday existence.
Ultimately, the novel’s greatest teaching may be that love, in its purest form, is the force that bridges all dualities—the sacred and the mundane, the earthly and the divine. Through the eyes of Shams and Rumi, readers are invited to experience love as the highest form of spiritual practice, one that calls us to be both fully human and fully connected to the infinite.
Recommendation:
For readers interested in spirituality, love, and personal growth, The Forty Rules of Love offers a rich, contemplative experience. Shafak’s storytelling, combined with the teachings of Shams Tabrizi, provides both entertainment and deep spiritual insight. Whether you’re a seasoned reader of Rumi’s works or new to Sufi mysticism, this novel is sure to leave a lasting impact.
The Forty Rules of Love remains on my list for deeper exploration. I plan to engage with each of the rules more fully in the future, and this review serves as a placeholder for that deeper dive.
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