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  • Neti Neti #17: Embracing the Paradox of “Not One, Not Two”

    Question:

    The Zen saying “Not one, not two” seems to encapsulate the paradox of non-duality I’ve been exploring. How does this saying relate to the teachings of Advaita Vedanta and the idea that Atman is Brahman?

    Dear friend,

    The Zen saying “Not one, not two” offers us a window into the paradoxical nature of reality, a reality that resists all attempts to confine it within the boundaries of language or thought. It is a saying that, like so many teachings in the mystical traditions, invites us to move beyond the ordinary distinctions of mind and enter into the mystery of what truly is.

    “Not one,” the saying begins, reminding us that reality cannot be reduced to a simplistic oneness that denies the diversity and richness of the world. While all things are indeed interconnected, arising from the same source, they also retain their unique expressions in the world of form. The Buddha, as an emanation of the Dharmakaya, is not simply a facet of an undifferentiated whole but a distinct manifestation of the truth, shaped by the conditions of time and space.

    And yet, “not two,” the saying continues, pointing us to the deeper truth that despite the multiplicity we perceive, there is no true separation between things. The distinctions we make, the boundaries we draw, are ultimately illusions created by the mind. In the deepest sense, all things are part of a seamless whole, connected by the invisible threads of existence that bind the universe together.

    This saying reflects the wisdom of the Middle Way, a path that avoids the extremes of both monism and dualism. It asks us to hold the tension of opposites, to embrace the paradox of a reality that is both one and many, unified and diverse. It is a way of being that does not cling to fixed ideas or concepts but remains open to the living truth that lies beyond them.

    To live by “Not one, not two” is to walk a path of profound wisdom and compassion. It is to recognize that while we may appear as separate individuals, each with our own thoughts, feelings, and experiences, we are also deeply interconnected with all that exists. This understanding calls us to act with kindness and humility, knowing that our actions ripple out into the world, affecting the whole.

    And so, dear friend, as you continue to explore the nature of Atman and Brahman, and the relationship between the individual self and the ultimate reality, let this Zen saying be a companion on your journey. It reminds us that the truth is not something to be grasped or defined, but something to be lived—something that reveals itself in the spaces between thought, in the quiet moments of contemplation, and in the way we move through the world with awareness and love.

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  • Neti Neti Series No. 8: Embracing Amusement as a Sign of Growing Detachment

    Neti Neti Series No. 8: Embracing Amusement as a Sign of Growing Detachment

    Question:

    During my recent practice, something new occurred. Instead of feeling disturbed by the usual mental events, memories, and thoughts, I found myself experiencing a sense of amusement and relaxation as they arose and passed away. It was as if I could observe the busyness of my mind with a lighthearted detachment, seeing these thoughts as just part of the mind’s activity. Is this sense of amusement a positive development in my practice, or is it just another mental event to be noticed and let go?

    Dear friend,

    What a beautiful shift you have experienced in your practice! The transition from feeling disturbed by the mind’s activities to watching them with a sense of amusement is indeed a significant one, and it speaks to the deepening of your understanding and awareness.

    You have touched upon a subtle but profound truth: that the mind, in its busyness, is simply doing what it has always done—arising and passing away, presenting thoughts, memories, and experiences. And now, rather than being entangled in these mental events, you observe them with a light heart, a sense of amusement. This amusement is not trivial; it is a reflection of your growing detachment, your ability to see the mind’s activities for what they are—transient phenomena that do not define you.

    This sense of relaxation that accompanies the amusement is a sign of your deepening practice. No longer do you resist or try to control the flow of thoughts. Instead, you allow them to arise and pass away, knowing that they are but fleeting ripples on the surface of a much deeper stillness. This relaxation is the fruit of your perseverance, a gentle release that allows you to rest more fully in the present moment.

    While it is true that amusement is itself a mental event, it is one that points toward equanimity—a state of balance where the mind’s activities are met with calm and openness, rather than resistance or attachment. This is a significant step on your journey, as it reflects a mind that is beginning to find peace amidst the fluctuations of thought and feeling. You are learning to greet whatever arises not with annoyance or disturbance, but with a kind of playful acceptance.

    Indeed, dear friend, this experience is a step in the right direction. It shows that your practice is maturing, leading you to a place where the mind’s busyness no longer holds the same sway over you. You are learning to watch the mind with a sense of lightness, knowing that its activities are not a reflection of your true self, but simply the passing clouds of thought that move across the sky of your awareness.

    Continue with this practice, allowing the amusement and relaxation to guide you further into the stillness that lies beneath all mental activity. Trust in the process, and know that you are moving ever closer to the peace and clarity that are your true nature.

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  • Neti Neti Series No. 7: Deepening Practice Through Breath and Mantra Coordination

    Neti Neti Series No. 7: Deepening Practice Through Breath and Mantra Coordination

    Question:

    How does coordinating the Neti Neti mantra with the breath—such as repeating it during the inhale, pause, exhale, and pause—enhance the practice and contribute to deeper relaxation and mindfulness?

    Dear friend,

    It is a delight to hear of your latest insight, where you have begun to coordinate the mantra with the breath. This practice, so simple and yet so profound, brings together the rhythms of the body and the mind in a harmonious dance, guiding you ever deeper into the stillness that lies at the heart of all being.

    When you synchronize the mantra “Not This, Not This” with your breath, you are creating a unified rhythm that anchors you in the present moment. The mind, which so often wanders, finds a steady focus in the regularity of the breath, and this focus is reinforced by the repetition of the mantra. Each inhale, each pause, each exhale becomes a part of the sacred cycle, a cycle that quiets the mind and brings it into alignment with the natural flow of life.

    The pattern you have described—three repetitions of the mantra on the inhale, three on the pause, three on the exhale, and three on the pause—establishes a gentle, balanced rhythm. This regulation of the breath not only deepens your relaxation but also enhances your ability to remain present. The breath, in its quiet regularity, becomes a soothing presence, guiding you back to the center each time the mind begins to drift.

    In this practice, concentration becomes almost effortless. The mind, drawn into the rhythm of the breath and the mantra, finds a natural focus. The distractions that once seemed so persistent begin to fade, replaced by a calm, steady awareness. This concentration is not forced but arises naturally from the coordination of breath and mantra, leading you deeper into the silence and stillness that are your true nature.

    As you continue with this practice, you may find that your awareness expands to include both the body and the mind. The breath, as it flows in and out, becomes a bridge between the two, creating a sense of wholeness and integration. In this state, the mind is no longer separate from the body but is experienced as part of the larger rhythm of existence. This integration brings a deep sense of presence, a presence that is both peaceful and powerful.

    My dear friend, this practice you have discovered is a beautiful and effective way to deepen your meditation. Continue with it, allowing the breath and the mantra to guide you ever deeper into the stillness that lies within. Trust in the rhythm of the breath, and let the mantra carry you beyond the thoughts and distractions of the mind, into the infinite peace of your true self.

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  • Neti Neti Series No. 6: Guiding the Ego and Approaching Rig-pa with “Not This, Not This”

    Neti Neti Series No. 6: Guiding the Ego and Approaching Rig-pa with “Not This, Not This”

    Question:

    How does the mantra Neti Neti help the ego by constantly negating experiences, and how does this practice relate to moments of rig-pa or the experience of deep relaxation without a sense of self?

    Dear friend,

    It brings a quiet joy to hear of your continued practice with the mantra “Not This, Not This.” There is a deep wisdom in the way you have approached this mantra, almost as if you have gently given the ego a new role—one that is not about grasping or achieving, but simply letting go. By assigning the ego the task of negation, you are engaging it in a way that transforms its usual tendencies, guiding it to release its hold on whatever arises in your mind.

    Imagine, if you will, the ego as a diligent worker, tirelessly trying to define and control your experience. But now, you have given it a simpler, more profound task: to say “Not This, Not This” to whatever appears before it. In doing so, the ego no longer needs to dominate or possess; instead, it becomes an instrument of release, of gentle detachment. This redirection of its energy allows you to experience a profound relaxation—a state of being that is free from the usual burdens of identification and striving.

    You mentioned Rig-pa, the pure, pristine awareness described in Tibetan Buddhism. This state, as you know, is one of complete clarity and non-duality, where there is no separation between observer and observed, no “I” to claim the experience. It is true that when one is fully in Rig-pa, there is no one there to say, “I have experienced Rig-pa.” It is simply the natural state, beyond all dualistic notions of self.

    Perhaps you have touched upon moments of this awareness in your practice, moments so simple and clear that they passed by without fanfare. This is often the way of such states—they do not announce themselves with grandiosity but arrive in the quiet spaces of the mind. The fact that you find this mantra particularly relaxing might suggest that you are indeed drawing nearer to this natural state, even if it is not fully apparent to the ordinary mind.

    The relaxation you feel is not just a fleeting sense of comfort—it is a deep, existential ease that arises when the mind is no longer tasked with searching or solving. “Not This, Not This” allows you to set aside the need to be anything other than what you are in this moment. It is a relaxation that goes beyond the physical or mental, touching the core of your being. This is a sign that you are moving in the right direction, toward a state of pure being, where the entanglements of the ego are gently unraveled.

    Continue with this mantra, my dear friend, for it seems to be guiding you beautifully on your journey. Trust in the relaxation you feel, for it is not merely a sign of peace, but a deepening into the essence of who you truly are. Whether or not you recognize moments of Rig-pa, know that you are cultivating the conditions for this awareness to arise naturally, in its own time and in its own way.

    Your path is unfolding with grace, and this mantra is becoming a trusted companion, leading you ever closer to the stillness and clarity that lies at the heart of all being. Continue with gentle persistence, and allow the simplicity of “Not This, Not This” to carry you further into the depths of your own true nature.

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  • Verse 1: The Heart of Reality — Insights from Ramana Maharshi

    “Reality exists as the Heart, your very Being. If Reality did not exist, could there be any knowledge of existence? Free from all thoughts, Reality abides in the Heart, the Source of all thoughts. It is, therefore, called the Heart. How then is one to contemplate it? To be as it is in the Heart, is Its contemplation.”

    — Ramana Maharshi, Forty Verses on Reality

    The Heart of Reality

    In the stillness of our being, where thoughts dissolve like mist under the sun, we come upon the essence of reality—the Heart, our very existence. This Heart is not a distant concept, a mere abstraction; it pulses with the life that courses through us, inviting us to recognize that our true nature is intricately woven into the fabric of all that is.

    What if reality, in its purest form, did not exist? Could we then grasp the very notion of existence, the flicker of awareness that dances in our minds? Each thought, each fleeting moment of recognition, springs forth from this source, the Heart, which abides in silence beyond the noise of our incessant chatter.

    To contemplate this truth is not to embark on a journey of the mind but rather to return home, to dwell as we are in the Heart itself. Here, in this sacred space, contemplation transforms into a state of being, a surrender to the profound simplicity of what is. We find ourselves not as separate seekers but as the very essence of the inquiry—a realization that calls us to rest in the Heart, to know ourselves as we truly are.

    For many years, I carried a fog of confusion around the word “heart,” a tangle of meanings that seemed to obscure more than they revealed. I remember being in circles where people would say, “Come from your heart,” and I would listen, trying to grasp the depth of what they meant. Often, it seemed to point toward emotion, to some form of deeper truth that was still bound in the personal—an authentic expression of ego, perhaps a sincerity in feeling, but still caught in the dualities of love and pain, fear and longing.

    But what did it mean, really, to come from the heart?

    In the midst of this confusion, Ramana’s words come like a gentle clearing of the fog. The heart, as he speaks of it, is not the emotional center we so often equate with the word. It is not the place of fluctuating feelings, nor is it simply a retreat from the mind’s logical discourse. What Ramana points to is something far deeper: the heart as the essence, the source of pure awareness itself.

    This reminds me of the self as Carl Jung describes it—not just the conscious mind, but the unconscious, and not just those personal aspects, but everything, the entire universe and reality. Jung’s idea of the Self expands far beyond the individual, reaching into the totality of existence itself, much like Ramana’s use of the word heart. In this sense, Reality, the Self, and the Heart all point to the same fundamental truth—the essence that underlies both duality and non-duality, the very nature of what is.

    In both Jung and Ramana’s teachings, we see that the self, or reality, is not something to be sought outside of ourselves or separated from the world. As Jesus says, we are to be in the world but not of the world. This aligns perfectly with the non-dual teaching: there is no need to escape the dualities of life to realize non-duality. Instead, we are invited to recognize that the essence of duality itself is non-dual.

    To come from the heart, then, is not merely to speak from personal truth or emotion, but to rest in the deeper awareness that embraces all experience without attachment. It is to be anchored in the non-dual essence of Reality, knowing that even in the world of forms and opposites, the underlying truth remains whole, undivided.

    And yet, how often we use the word “heart” to point to something else—something closer to our personal feelings or opinions, mistaking emotional honesty for the deeper truth of our being. But here, in this teaching, the heart is revealed as the true source of non-dual clarity, the place from which true forgiveness, compassion, and love naturally arise—not as personal qualities, but as emanations of our most pure self.

    As I reflect on this teaching in, it becomes clear that the heart Ramana speaks of is not a center of personal feelings or emotion, but the eternal essence that transcends the body and mind. This heart, or true Self, is the witness that remains even when personal identity fades. In some ways, this description feels similar to the concept of the Holy Spirit or God, which abides within and beyond us.

    When we speak of the heart as Ramana does, we are pointing to the essence of pure awareness, the unchanging “I” that exists beyond the temporary forms of the body and ego. This teaching invites us to recognize the heart as the source of non-dual awareness, a presence that continues even when the personal self dissolves.

    Coming Up Next: Verse 2

    In the next reflection, we will explore how those who know the Self are deathless, transcending the fear of mortality. We’ll delve into the liberation found in surrendering to the Divine, awakening to the eternal nature of existence beyond the physical realm.

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  • Introducing the Neti Neti Practice Series: A Journey of Self-Inquiry

    Welcome to the Practices of Neti Neti series, an exploration into one of the most profound methods of self-inquiry within the Advaita Vedanta tradition. This series is dedicated to the practice of Neti Neti—a Sanskrit phrase meaning “not this, not this”—which serves as a guide for stripping away all that is not the true Self, leading to the recognition of our pristine, unchanging nature.

    What is Neti Neti?

    Neti Neti is a process of negation that helps practitioners identify and discard false identifications with thoughts, emotions, and sensations. It is a method of peeling back the layers of the ego to reveal the stillness and silence of the pristine mind—the pure consciousness that is unaffected by the fluctuations of the mind. This practice is at the heart of Advaita Vedanta and is used to guide the seeker toward the realization of the Self, or Atman, which is ultimately one with Brahman, the universal consciousness.

    About This Series

    In this series, you will find a collection of questions and answers that delve deeply into the practice of Neti Neti. Each question is a reflection of the natural inquiries that arise during meditation and self-inquiry. The answers are written in a contemplative and encouraging style, as letters from a friend —offering wisdom, clarity, and support as you navigate your own journey of self-discovery.

    Why Questions and Answers?

    The format of questions followed by reflective answers is inspired by the teaching styles of great spiritual masters like Ramana Maharshi and Papaji. This approach allows for a dynamic exploration of the practice, addressing the doubts and insights that naturally emerge as one progresses on the path. By engaging with these questions, you’ll find that the answers are not merely intellectual responses, but invitations to deeper inquiry and realization.

    How to Use This Series

    This series is designed to be read sequentially, as the posts build upon each other, following the natural flow of practice and understanding. However, you are also welcome to explore the posts in any order, depending on where you are in your own practice.

    Each post presents a question that might arise during your meditation or reflection, followed by a letter that offers guidance on how to address it. These letters are not just answers—they are invitations to deepen your practice, to explore the subtleties of Neti Neti, and to connect with the stillness that lies beyond all mental events.

    Beginning the Journey

    As you embark on this journey through the Neti Neti practice, remember that this path is not about attaining something new, but about recognizing what has always been present. The goal is to gently guide the mind away from its distractions, allowing the pristine mind—your true nature—to shine through.

    Whether you are new to Neti Neti or looking to deepen your understanding, I invite you to explore these letters with an open heart and a quiet mind. May they serve as a steady guide on your path to self-realization.

    Engage and Explore Together

    I warmly encourage you to leave any questions or reflections in the comments section of each post. If a question resonates deeply or sparks a new line of inquiry, I may create additional blog posts to explore these topics further. Your engagement helps to create a community of shared learning, where we can all benefit from each other’s insights and experiences.

    Let us begin this journey together, one question and one insight at a time, as we uncover the truth of who we truly are.

    For those who wish to explore further the concept of pristine mind and its practices, I highly recommend Orgyen Chowang Rinpoche’s book, Pristine Mind: A Journey into Self-Awareness. Although this book does not specifically address the Neti Neti practice, it offers profound insights into the nature of pristine mind, a state of pure awareness that lies beyond the mental events and distractions that often cloud our perception. Rinpoche’s teachings provide a clear and accessible guide to realizing and resting in this natural state, which closely aligns with the ultimate goal of Neti Neti. You can explore the Kindle version of this book below, which may serve as a valuable companion on your journey of self-inquiry and spiritual awakening.

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