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  • Neti Neti Series No. 2: The Mantra That Dissolves into Silence

    Question:

    As I sit in meditation, repeating the mantra “Neti Neti,” I understand that this sacred phrase helps to strip away all that I am not. Thoughts arise, and I negate them. Emotions surface, and I let them go. Even the awareness of being a witness or the experience of stillness—these too, I recognize as not the ultimate reality.

    Yet, a subtle dilemma has emerged. I wonder, what happens when the very idea of “I” who is meditating dissolves? Is it not true that as long as there is an “I” who continues the practice, the mantra “Neti Neti” must also continue? And if this is the case, does the mantra cease only when the “I” itself disappears into the natural state of pure being? In such a moment, is it the case that the mantra stops on its own, not by my choosing, but because there is no longer an “I” to hold it?

    And then, when the sense of “I” returns, does the mantra begin again naturally, as the duality of subject and object re-emerges? I seek your wisdom on this matter, for I wish to understand the true nature of this practice and its ultimate purpose.

    Dear friend,

    Your question, born from a place of sincere inquiry, touches upon the very heart of the “Neti Neti” practice. I commend you for your diligence and the subtlety of your understanding, which reveals a mind that is both reflective and deeply engaged in the journey inward.

    Yes, you have grasped a key truth: the mantra “Neti Neti” is indeed a tool for continuous negation. It is a practice of peeling away the layers of illusion, gently, one by one, until nothing remains but the pure, unadorned awareness that is your true nature.

    As long as there is an “I” who perceives itself as meditating, this “I” exists within the realm of duality—where there is a subject (the meditator) and an object (the practice, the mantra, the thoughts). In this dualistic state, the mantra serves its purpose, guiding the mind to recognize that each arising thought, each sensation, each experience of stillness or witnessing, is not the ultimate reality. “Not this, not this,” the mantra whispers, reminding you that you are not these transient phenomena.

    But what happens when the sense of “I” begins to dissolve? When the boundary between perceiver and perceived starts to blur and fade? Herein lies a profound mystery: as the “I” that meditates melts into the ocean of pure being, the mantra, too, falls silent. For in the state of non-duality, where all distinctions have vanished, there is no need for the mantra—no “I” to repeat it, no “other” to negate. What remains is the natural state, the effortless being that is beyond all concepts, all forms, all practices.

    In this state, you do not stop the mantra; rather, the mantra ceases on its own, like a river merging with the sea, no longer distinguishable as a separate entity. This silence is not a void but a fullness, an infinite expanse of awareness where the true self—Atman—is realized, free from the confines of duality.

    And yet, the journey doesn’t end there. If and when the sense of ‘I’ re-emerges, as it often does, the mantra returns naturally. This is not a step backward but a return to the dualistic state where the mind resumes its habitual patterns. The mantra then resumes its sacred task of guiding you back toward the still, silent center where the distinctions between self and other can once again dissolve.

    So, dear friend, your understanding is indeed correct. The mantra “Neti Neti” is not something to be stopped by an act of will, but rather it fades away of its own accord when there is no longer an “I” to sustain it. And when the “I” returns, the mantra too returns, ready to lead you back into the depths of stillness and silence.

    Trust in this process, and allow the practice to unfold naturally, without forcing or grasping. The journey of “Neti Neti” is one of gentle negation, patient observation, and deep surrender. In time, you will come to rest more and more in the natural state, where the mantra is no longer needed, and the self is known in its true, infinite nature.

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  • Introducing the Neti Neti Practice Series: A Journey of Self-Inquiry

    Welcome to the Practices of Neti Neti series, an exploration into one of the most profound methods of self-inquiry within the Advaita Vedanta tradition. This series is dedicated to the practice of Neti Neti—a Sanskrit phrase meaning “not this, not this”—which serves as a guide for stripping away all that is not the true Self, leading to the recognition of our pristine, unchanging nature.

    What is Neti Neti?

    Neti Neti is a process of negation that helps practitioners identify and discard false identifications with thoughts, emotions, and sensations. It is a method of peeling back the layers of the ego to reveal the stillness and silence of the pristine mind—the pure consciousness that is unaffected by the fluctuations of the mind. This practice is at the heart of Advaita Vedanta and is used to guide the seeker toward the realization of the Self, or Atman, which is ultimately one with Brahman, the universal consciousness.

    About This Series

    In this series, you will find a collection of questions and answers that delve deeply into the practice of Neti Neti. Each question is a reflection of the natural inquiries that arise during meditation and self-inquiry. The answers are written in a contemplative and encouraging style, as letters from a friend —offering wisdom, clarity, and support as you navigate your own journey of self-discovery.

    Why Questions and Answers?

    The format of questions followed by reflective answers is inspired by the teaching styles of great spiritual masters like Ramana Maharshi and Papaji. This approach allows for a dynamic exploration of the practice, addressing the doubts and insights that naturally emerge as one progresses on the path. By engaging with these questions, you’ll find that the answers are not merely intellectual responses, but invitations to deeper inquiry and realization.

    How to Use This Series

    This series is designed to be read sequentially, as the posts build upon each other, following the natural flow of practice and understanding. However, you are also welcome to explore the posts in any order, depending on where you are in your own practice.

    Each post presents a question that might arise during your meditation or reflection, followed by a letter that offers guidance on how to address it. These letters are not just answers—they are invitations to deepen your practice, to explore the subtleties of Neti Neti, and to connect with the stillness that lies beyond all mental events.

    Beginning the Journey

    As you embark on this journey through the Neti Neti practice, remember that this path is not about attaining something new, but about recognizing what has always been present. The goal is to gently guide the mind away from its distractions, allowing the pristine mind—your true nature—to shine through.

    Whether you are new to Neti Neti or looking to deepen your understanding, I invite you to explore these letters with an open heart and a quiet mind. May they serve as a steady guide on your path to self-realization.

    Engage and Explore Together

    I warmly encourage you to leave any questions or reflections in the comments section of each post. If a question resonates deeply or sparks a new line of inquiry, I may create additional blog posts to explore these topics further. Your engagement helps to create a community of shared learning, where we can all benefit from each other’s insights and experiences.

    Let us begin this journey together, one question and one insight at a time, as we uncover the truth of who we truly are.

    For those who wish to explore further the concept of pristine mind and its practices, I highly recommend Orgyen Chowang Rinpoche’s book, Pristine Mind: A Journey into Self-Awareness. Although this book does not specifically address the Neti Neti practice, it offers profound insights into the nature of pristine mind, a state of pure awareness that lies beyond the mental events and distractions that often cloud our perception. Rinpoche’s teachings provide a clear and accessible guide to realizing and resting in this natural state, which closely aligns with the ultimate goal of Neti Neti. You can explore the Kindle version of this book below, which may serve as a valuable companion on your journey of self-inquiry and spiritual awakening.

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  • Neti Neti Series No. 1: Embracing the Practice of “Not This, Not This

    Question:

    How should I approach the practice of “Neti Neti” and what can I expect as I continue with it?


    Dear friend,

    “Neti Neti” is a path that is both ancient and profound, one that requires patience, a quiet heart, and a gentle perseverance. I’d like to share with you some thoughts and reflections that may guide you as you journey further into this sacred practice.

    The phrase “Neti Neti” translates simply as “not this, not this.” It is a mantra, yes, but it is also much more than that—it is a doorway to the understanding what lies beyond the confines of our ordinary thoughts and perceptions. When we repeat “Neti Neti,” we are not merely uttering words; we are engaging in a process of negation that strips away the layers of illusion and false identification, leading us closer to the core of our being.

    You may find that as you begin your practice, thoughts arise incessantly, like waves upon the shore. This is natural, my friend, and there is no need for concern. The mind, after all, is accustomed to constant movement. But as you sit in stillness and repeat “Neti Neti,” you are training your awareness to recognize that these thoughts—however persistent they may seem—are not who you are.

    In those moments when the mind is quiet, even for a brief instant, you may feel a sense of peace, a spaciousness that is untouched by the comings and goings of thoughts and emotions. This is the silence in which your true self resides. When you touch this silence, allow yourself to rest in it. Do not seek to hold on to it too tightly, for it is like a delicate breeze—best experienced by simply being present with it.

    And yet, if thoughts begin to stir again—and they often will—there is no need to worry or to chastise yourself. Simply return to the mantra, “Neti Neti,” with the understanding that what you are negating is not just the thought itself, but the identification with it. Each time you say “not this,” you are affirming that your true self is not these fleeting mental activities but something much deeper and more enduring.

    As you continue with this practice, you may begin to notice subtle changes in your inner landscape. The mind, once so restless, may start to settle more easily. You may find that the gaps between thoughts grow wider, and the stillness within you becomes more familiar, like a dear friend who visits often. This is the beginning of a profound transformation.

    In time, my friend, you may come to a place where the need to repeat the mantra diminishes, where silence and stillness are your natural state, and where the mind rests in its true home, free from the distractions that once held it captive. This is not a state to be forced or grasped at—it will come in its own time, as you continue to practice with patience and love.

    Remember, the journey of “Neti Neti” is not about eradicating thoughts or achieving some distant goal. It is about returning, again and again, to the awareness that lies beyond all concepts and forms. It is about recognizing that you are not the thoughts that arise, nor the emotions that ebb and flow. You are the awareness in which all these things occur, and this awareness is vast, infinite, and untouched by the passing of time.

    So, dear friend, as you continue with your practice, I encourage you to approach it with gentleness and an open heart. Trust in the process, even when it feels challenging. Trust in the silence that you find within, and know that this silence is the truest reflection of who you are.

    I look forward to hearing about your experiences as you deepen in this practice. May it bring you the peace and understanding that your soul seeks.

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  • Beyond Objects: The Paradox of the Ever-Present Subject in Self-Inquiry

    In the practice of self-inquiry, particularly when meditating on questions like “Who am I?” or “What am I?”, a profound paradox often arises. The goal is not to discover another object—another thought, concept, or identity—but to realize the ever-present subject, the pure awareness that is always observing but is itself never observed. This exploration can lead to confusion as the mind, accustomed to dealing with objects, struggles to grasp something that cannot be grasped.

    The Subject and the Object

    In our daily lives, we interact with the world primarily through objects. These objects include not just physical things, but also thoughts, emotions, and even our sense of self. When we engage in self-inquiry, asking “Who am I?” or “What am I?”, the mind instinctively begins to search for an answer within the realm of objects. It looks for another label, another identity that it can understand and define. But the subject—the true Self—eludes this search because it is not an object that can be categorized or comprehended by the mind.

    The Ever-Present Subject

    The subject is the awareness that perceives all objects. It is the constant, unchanging presence that observes everything else that changes. This subject is not a “who” or a “what” because it does not belong to the realm of objects. It is the essence of our being, the ground of all experience, yet it cannot be objectified, labeled, or defined.

    The Confusion of Objectifying the Subject

    As we delve deeper into self-inquiry, confusion often arises. The mind, which is designed to understand and manipulate objects, finds itself at a loss when it tries to apply the same approach to the subject. It’s like trying to see your own eyes without a mirror—the subject cannot see itself because it is the one doing the seeing. This confusion is not a failure but an indication that the mind is approaching its own limits.

    This paradox is a critical aspect of self-inquiry. It signals the point at which the mind must cease its usual operations and simply rest in awareness. The subject, or true Self, is not to be found as an object out there, but recognized as the very awareness in which the search is taking place.

    Embracing the Paradox

    To move beyond this confusion, it’s essential to let go of the need for an intellectual answer. The question “Who am I?” or “What am I?” is not meant to yield a concept or a new identity. Instead, it serves to turn the mind back on itself, leading to the realization that you are neither a “who” nor a “what,” but the pure awareness that is aware of all things.

    The confusion that arises is a natural and necessary part of this process. It is the mind’s way of signaling that it cannot turn the subject into an object, and this realization opens the door to a deeper understanding. By allowing this confusion to be, without trying to resolve it into a tidy intellectual answer, you can begin to rest in the pure presence of awareness itself.

    Alternative Mantras for Self-Inquiry

    If the traditional self-inquiry questions “Who am I?” or “What am I?” lead to a sense of dead end or confusion, you might find it helpful to use a different approach. Here are some alternative mantras or inquiries that can help guide you toward the reality of the subject—the pure awareness that is your true nature:

    1. “I am That” (Soham or Tat Tvam Asi): This mantra emphasizes the non-dual realization that your true Self is one with the ultimate reality, Brahman. It helps dissolve the identification with the mind and body, guiding you toward unity with infinite consciousness.
    2. “I am” (Aham): Focusing on the phrase “I am” without any descriptors can tune you into the presence of pure awareness, the basic sense of existence before it becomes entangled with thoughts and identities.
    3. “Be Still and Know”: Inspired by the biblical phrase, this mantra encourages you to settle into stillness and recognize the presence of awareness, leading to a deeper understanding of your true nature.
    4. “Pure Awareness” or “Consciousness Only”: These mantras directly affirm the nature of the subject as pure awareness, allowing you to focus on the awareness in which all experiences arise and dissolve.
    5. “Not this, not that” (Neti Neti): The practice of Neti Neti involves negating all that is not the Self, guiding your awareness back to the subject—the pure, unchanging consciousness.
    6. “I Am Presence”: This mantra emphasizes the feeling of existence without attaching it to any identity or role, helping you anchor in the experience of pure being.
    7. “Silent Witness”: Focusing on “Silent Witness” helps shift your attention to the observing presence within you, reminding you that you are the silent witness to all that occurs.
    8. “Who is aware?”: If “Who am I?” feels too abstract, “Who is aware?” can be a more direct pointer, helping you realize that the awareness observing everything is not an object but the subject itself.

    Each of these mantras offers a different pathway to recognizing the ever-present subject, the awareness that is your true Self. By choosing one that resonates with you and practicing it consistently, you can deepen your understanding and experience of pure awareness.

    Conclusion: Resting in Awareness

    Meditating on “Who am I?” or “What am I?” is not about finding an object or a new identity but about recognizing the ever-present subject—the pure awareness that is your true nature. This subject is beyond all concepts of “who” or “what,” and any confusion that arises is a natural part of the mind’s journey towards self-realization.

    By embracing this paradox and resting in the awareness that is always present, you move closer to the realization of your true nature—beyond all objects, beyond all concepts, as the pure, unchanging awareness that you truly are.

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