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  • Neti Neti #21: Moving Beyond Mental Efficiency Toward True Stillness

    Question:

    In my meditation practice, I’ve found that even as I use the mantra Neti Neti, my mind continues to plan and organize, almost as if the mantra is helping me to become more efficient in my daily tasks. How can I ensure that my practice is guiding me toward stillness and not just enhancing my mental activity?

    Dear Friend,

    In our practice, there are moments when the very tools we use to quiet the mind can, if we are not careful, become entangled in the very patterns we seek to transcend. This is a subtle but important distinction, one that deserves our careful attention and reflection.

    You shared with me the story of a friend who could, with great concentration, count her breath while simultaneously planning her day and organizing her thoughts. This ability, impressive as it may be, highlights a potential pitfall in our practice: the risk of turning a mantra or meditative discipline into just another tool for the ego to increase its efficiency in the world of thoughts and tasks.

    The discipline of breath counting, like the repetition of a mantra, is designed to focus the mind, to bring it into alignment with the present moment, and ultimately to guide it toward stillness. However, when the mind uses these practices to merely enhance its own abilities—to become more effective at planning, strategizing, or managing the endless stream of daily thoughts—something essential is lost. The practice, rather than serving as a path to stillness and simplicity, becomes yet another way for the mind to strengthen its hold, to entrench itself more deeply in its habitual patterns.

    Neti, Neti—”Not this, not this”—is not a mantra to be repeated mechanically while the mind continues its usual business. It is not a background hum that allows the mind to multitask or to become more efficient in its usual endeavors. Rather, it is a tool for discernment, for negation, for guiding the mind away from its distractions and toward the silence that lies beneath all thought.

    When we repeat Neti, Neti, we are not merely engaging the mind in an activity; we are inviting it to let go, to release its grip on the thoughts, desires, and plans that arise within it. Each time a thought surfaces, whether it is about the past, the future, or the present, we gently meet it with Neti, Neti, allowing it to dissolve, to return to the nothingness from which it came. This practice is not about increasing our concentration or our ability to manage our mental activities; it is about seeing through them, recognizing them as temporary, fleeting, and ultimately unreal.

    The true purpose of Neti, Neti is to bring the mind to stillness, to the quiet awareness that is always present beneath the surface of our thoughts. It is to guide the mind back to its natural state, where it is not constantly engaged in activity, but rests in the simple presence of being. This stillness is not something to be attained through effort or concentration; it is something that is revealed when the mind lets go of its constant striving and simply allows itself to be.

    In this way, Neti, Neti becomes not just a practice, but a way of being—a way of living in the world without being caught up in the endless stream of thoughts and activities that usually dominate our consciousness. It is a way of returning, again and again, to the essence of who we are, to the pristine mind that lies beyond all distractions and desires.

    So, dear friend, as you continue with your practice, let this be a gentle reminder: the purpose of Neti, Neti is not to make you more efficient at thinking, planning, or organizing. It is to free you from the need to do so, to guide you toward a deeper stillness, a deeper presence, and a deeper understanding of your true nature. Each repetition of the mantra is an invitation to let go, to release the mind’s habitual patterns, and to rest in the quiet awareness that is your true self.

    May your practice be a path to stillness, a path to simplicity, and a path to the deep peace that comes from knowing that you are not the thoughts that arise, but the awareness that witnesses them.

    🙏🕊️🙏

  • Neti Neti #19: Beyond the Desire for Fulfillment and Peace

    Question:

    Paramahansa Yogananda said, ‘Through meditation and devotion, one can experience the presence of God within and lead a life of greater fulfillment and peace.’ At this point in my life, I know these words are true, but the practice of Neti Neti seems even more aligned with my path. It guides me away from distractions, including the desire for fulfillment and peace. These desires, though natural expressions of ego relaxation and pristine mind, can become subtle traps if they turn into goals. How do I reconcile the pursuit of fulfillment and peace with the deeper realization of Neti Neti, which reminds me to let go of even these desires?

    Dear Friend,

    It is a significant realization, this understanding that even the desire for fulfillment and peace can become a subtle trap on the spiritual path. While these states are indeed natural expressions of the relaxation of the ego and the emergence of pristine mind, they must also be met with the same gentle discernment that you apply to all other experiences: Neti, Neti—Not this, not this.

    Desire, in its many forms, has a way of entangling the mind, even when it appears in the guise of something noble or spiritual. The longing for fulfillment, the yearning for peace—these are desires that arise naturally as the ego begins to loosen its grip, as the I-sense starts to dissolve into the vastness of pure awareness. And yet, as you have so wisely recognized, even these desires can become obstacles if they are held too tightly, if they become goals in themselves.

    In this, there is a subtlety that must be navigated with care. The experience of fulfillment and peace is not to be rejected, but neither is it to be grasped. It is to be allowed, to be noticed, and then gently set aside, with the understanding that even these are not the ultimate truth.

    Neti, Neti guides us beyond all that can be named, all that can be desired. It takes us to the very edge of the known, and then, with infinite patience, it takes us further still, into the unknown, into the formless, into the pure awareness that is beyond all seeking. In this place, there is no fulfillment to be attained, no peace to be grasped—because there is no one left to attain or grasp anything. There is only what is, in its simplest, most profound expression.

    This practice is not about rejecting fulfillment or peace, but about seeing them for what they are—temporary states that arise and pass, like clouds in the sky. They are beautiful, they are welcome, but they are not the sky itself. The sky, the vast expanse of pristine mind, remains untouched by the passing of these clouds, just as your true self remains untouched by the ebb and flow of experience.

    In letting go of even the desire for peace and fulfillment, you open yourself to the deeper truth that lies beyond all conditions, beyond all states. You allow yourself to rest in the simple awareness of being, in the silence that is always here, beneath the noise of the mind. This is the ultimate freedom—not the attainment of any particular state, but the realization that you are already that which you seek.

    Neti, Neti—Not this, not this. It is the gentle, persistent reminder that the truth is beyond all concepts, beyond all desires, beyond all states of being. It is the invitation to let go, to surrender, and to rest in the unconditioned awareness that is your true nature.

    Continue with this practice, dear friend, knowing that it is guiding you ever closer to the heart of truth. Let the desires arise and pass as they will, without clinging to them, without rejecting them—simply noticing, and then softly whispering, “Not this, not this.” In this way, you will find a peace that is not sought, a fulfillment that is not attained, but simply is.

    🙏🕊️🙏