Neti Neti Series No. 1: Embracing the Practice of “Not This, Not This

Question:

How should I approach the practice of “Neti Neti” and what can I expect as I continue with it?

Dear friend,

“Neti Neti” is a path that is both ancient and profound, one that requires patience, a quiet heart, and a gentle perseverance. I’d like to share with you some thoughts and reflections that may guide you as you journey further into this sacred practice.

The phrase “Neti Neti” translates simply as “not this, not this.” It is a mantra, yes, but it is also much more than that—it is a doorway to the understanding what lies beyond the confines of our ordinary thoughts and perceptions. When we repeat “Neti Neti,” we are not merely uttering words; we are engaging in a process of negation that strips away the layers of illusion and false identification, leading us closer to the core of our being.

You may find that as you begin your practice, thoughts arise incessantly, like waves upon the shore. This is natural, my friend, and there is no need for concern. The mind, after all, is accustomed to constant movement. But as you sit in stillness and repeat “Neti Neti,” you are training your awareness to recognize that these thoughts—however persistent they may seem—are not who you are.

In those moments when the mind is quiet, even for a brief instant, you may feel a sense of peace, a spaciousness that is untouched by the comings and goings of thoughts and emotions. This is the silence in which your true self resides. When you touch this silence, allow yourself to rest in it. Do not seek to hold on to it too tightly, for it is like a delicate breeze—best experienced by simply being present with it.

And yet, if thoughts begin to stir again—and they often will—there is no need to worry or to chastise yourself. Simply return to the mantra, “Neti Neti,” with the understanding that what you are negating is not just the thought itself, but the identification with it. Each time you say “not this,” you are affirming that your true self is not these fleeting mental activities but something much deeper and more enduring.

As you continue with this practice, you may begin to notice subtle changes in your inner landscape. The mind, once so restless, may start to settle more easily. You may find that the gaps between thoughts grow wider, and the stillness within you becomes more familiar, like a dear friend who visits often. This is the beginning of a profound transformation.

In time, my friend, you may come to a place where the need to repeat the mantra diminishes, where silence and stillness are your natural state, and where the mind rests in its true home, free from the distractions that once held it captive. This is not a state to be forced or grasped at—it will come in its own time, as you continue to practice with patience and love.

Remember, the journey of “Neti Neti” is not about eradicating thoughts or achieving some distant goal. It is about returning, again and again, to the awareness that lies beyond all concepts and forms. It is about recognizing that you are not the thoughts that arise, nor the emotions that ebb and flow. You are the awareness in which all these things occur, and this awareness is vast, infinite, and untouched by the passing of time.

So, dear friend, as you continue with your practice, I encourage you to approach it with gentleness and an open heart. Trust in the process, even when it feels challenging. Trust in the silence that you find within, and know that this silence is the truest reflection of who you are.

I look forward to hearing about your experiences as you deepen in this practice. May it bring you the peace and understanding that your soul seeks.

🙏🕊️🙏